50 Elaine Sihera Quotes
People who lack confidence tend lack self-belief, the key element of confidence, and find it hard to say 'No'.
Confidence is the greatest single asset we can possess, because it often moves mountains.
Confidence is learned, it is not inherited.
Real confidence cannot be faked. It affects us from the time we are very young and has to be nurtured by others around us.
True confidence carries no fears, except those for our survival.
A child who is told repeatedly by his family that he is good for nothing turns into a man who believes he is worthless, useless and has no talent.
Genuine confidence comes through encouragement of our actions by the three Ps: our parents, partners and peers, which is an important tonic to our self-esteem.
The majority of people are denied praise and encouragement because we are inclined to praise, if our confidence is high, and to be critical if our confidence is low.
The first law of confidence is to LOVE yourself. Be happy with who you are, what you have and what you've been blessed with. Don't take them for granted.
On SELF ESTEEM!
Self esteem gradually emerges from one's childhood experiences: how one was valued, praised or criticised, affirmed or negated.
People with poor self-esteem seldom feel in charge of their lives. They often feel like victims, or outsiders - excluded, insignificant and unloved.
At the core of low self-esteem is a personal feeling of inadequacy, of not being as good as others or as competent as they they are.
Negative, inflexible, habits which are dictated by fear, produce negative results which keep us feeling low and inadequate.
The past often looks better when we are low in self-esteem because it allows us to ignore the moving times and be blind to what we do not wish to see.
People who live in the past tend to take their present for granted, while many others have not been so privileged to have one.
On SELF AWARENESS!
Knowledge is power, but the greatest power is self-knowledge.
Thoughts and actions constantly change, so each of us has the power over what we think and do.
Self-awareness boosts identity. If you don't know much about your background, history, culture and what you value, how can you interact with others in mutual respect?
To get where you want to go in your own life, you have to know what you want and at least the direction you should take that will lead to it.
People can only reflect the value YOU give to yourself, they cannot create that value. If you feel constantly terrible, and show it, they will only reflect that back to you, too.
Successful relationships depend on knowing who we are, what we want in life, and where we are going. Otherwise we won't recognise it when we see it.
We have to stop the self-criticisms and self-negation and be happy with ourselves before anyone else can truly appreciate us.
By learning self-love and appreciation we will gradually accept that people will come and go in our lives but we have to live with ourselves 24/7.
Most juvenile and adult problems are caused by a deep sense of not belonging to anyone or anything.
On POWER, CONTROL and BELIEFS!
Our level of confidence is determined by the degree of control we believe we have over our situation, both personally and professionally.
A need for power lies at the heart of control and the desire to control is central to all of us
A lack of personal power is the biggest killer of our confidence. It lowers our self esteem, keeping us in a state of weakness and impotence
Feel entitled to believe in whatever you like, whether God or little green men, that's your right. As long as you do not impose your beliefs on others or judge others by them.
If you believe in nothing you will fall for anything, and people who stay in the middle of the road eventually get run over!
Accept that we do not need someone else in our lives to make us loveable human beings, but they are desirable. Learn to love ourselves first, to know who we are, and to value our own company.
On INTERACTION and SAYING 'NO'!
Interaction is a gift between two human beings. They both feel special, valued and significant from the exchange.
Finding time to call, to chat, to arrange a visit for someone could be the last wonderful thing you do for them in their lifetime.
There are too many managers who concentrate on the task to be done and not on the staff doing it.
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The two main reasons why we might say 'yes' when we want to say 'no' are a lack of confidence and a desire for approval.
There is nothing bad about saying 'NO', especially when you really mean 'NO'. The other person might not like it, but you won't do it and then resent it.
Fears are fed and maintained by negative experiences, a lack of self-love, lack of self-belief and an absence of trust.
People driven by fear are plagued by self-doubt, submissiveness, sensitivity to criticism, acute distrust, feelings of inferiority, being unloved or rejected.
Imagination and fear is the most powerful combination that affects our life.
On SHYNESS and ACHIEVEMENT!
Shyness is a feeling of unworthiness, not being happy in one's skin, and a fear of interacting with others in various social situations.
Shyness is based on low self image, low confidence and self belief, and negative feelings about self-worth.
Shyness revolves around a desire to avoid being hurt), a lack of trust, and the mistaken belief that everyone else is perhaps more perfect, which makes us unworthy to share their company.
One of the biggest confidence killers is our desire to be perfect beings. But the real question is: When we have reached perfection, what happens next?
Perfectionists have a lurking feeling that they are inadequate, potential failures.
Achievement and a sense of belonging control the level of our esteem. Without both aspects being fulfilled we are likely to suffer a sense of inadequacy.
Behaviour is dictated by values, and values are formed by beliefs. Those three elements work in strict tandem. If we wish for our behaviour to change, we have to start with our beliefs.
By convincing ourselves there is a perfect time for action, we fail to achieve what we want tomorrow because we never make a start today!
You get the life that you THINK about because your thoughts make your existence.